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Ending Blame and Defensiveness (How to Have the Shortest Argument ever)

“We always fight over the dumbest little things” “I don’t even remember how it started”   Often, conflicts over something very small are then fuelled by blame and defensiveness and blow up into a full-blown argument. The original problem gets lost because we have added so many layers of blame and defensiveness that we are […]

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Fighting Fair: How to Peacefully Resolve Conflict in a Relationship

I have often thought of making this into a flow chart…think of it as such.  The process starts with the question… “Who’s problem is this?”  at the top of the page.  If it is something that has you upset, it’s your problem.  If your partner is upset about something, it’s their problem, and if both of you are upset, then it’s shared.  The […]

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