Category Archives: I’ve been thinking…

Look deeper: divorce isn’t about dirty dishes

(Warning: gross gender-based generalizations)   I just read this blog post from a man who claims his wife divorced him because of dishes left by the kitchen sink. He appeals to all men to be more aware of and sensitive to how “wounded” women are by these little things men do without thinking. Aside from […]

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Ending Blame and Defensiveness (How to Have the Shortest Argument ever)

“We always fight over the dumbest little things” “I don’t even remember how it started”   Often, conflicts over something very small are then fuelled by blame and defensiveness and blow up into a full-blown argument. The original problem gets lost because we have added so many layers of blame and defensiveness that we are […]

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Why you should give your partner the ‘benefit of the doubt’.

Recently I heard someone say to their partner…”You know what I want?  I want the benefit of the doubt.  I want you to trust that when something happens, I don’t have the worst intentions towards you; that I’m not trying to hurt you.” I LOVE that.  Sometimes, when our resources are low or stress is […]

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