Category Archives: Emotional Trigger

Look deeper: divorce isn’t about dirty dishes

(Warning: gross gender-based generalizations)   I just read this blog post from a man who claims his wife divorced him because of dishes left by the kitchen sink. He appeals to all men to be more aware of and sensitive to how “wounded” women are by these little things men do without thinking. Aside from […]

Read more ...
Why we don’t need to (publically or privately) shame our children…(or anyone)

There’s a news story today about a father who punished his 13 year-old daughter after she sent what he judged an inappropriate photo to a boy.  He cut off her long hair and then videotaping her standing beside the hair as he described her punishment. It was posted to social media, although the father claims […]

Read more ...
Ending Blame and Defensiveness (How to Have the Shortest Argument ever)

“We always fight over the dumbest little things” “I don’t even remember how it started”   Often, conflicts over something very small are then fuelled by blame and defensiveness and blow up into a full-blown argument. The original problem gets lost because we have added so many layers of blame and defensiveness that we are […]

Read more ...