Blog Posts written by Lynda Martens

Self Care as treatment for stress/depression/anxiety

Self Care as treatment for stress/depression/anxiety

Everybody is talking about “self care” these days, and for good reason. How you do self care strongly affects your mental and emotional health. I say this a lot…”If you want to FEEL differently, take a close look at your THOUGHTS, and your BEHAVIOURS”. It’s a tightly woven threesome; your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours all […]

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When your partner cheats

When your partner cheats

I often meet people who either suspect their partner is cheating, or have discovered they are.  How do you handle suspicions or evidence of an affair? Why Do Affairs Happen? Three Contributing Factors: Individually, our need for affirmation and attention, how we manage our boundaries, and how capable we are of being loyal to our partner […]

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Ending Blame and Defensiveness (How to Have the Shortest Argument ever)

Ending Blame and Defensiveness (How to Have the Shortest Argument ever)

“We always fight over the dumbest little things” “I don’t even remember how it started”   Often, conflicts over something very small are then fuelled by blame and defensiveness and blow up into a full-blown argument. The original problem gets lost because we have added so many layers of blame and defensiveness that we are […]

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